Blog Post #11

1. If I were to describe my personality, I would say that I am happy, fun-loving, open-minded, unique, and caring. I also think that I am moody, a perfectionist, and I get jealous easily. Being a happy person is positive because it's very healthy to be happy and laughing. Being fun-loving is positive because I am enjoying life to the fullest. Being open-minded is positive because I accept people's differences and I don't discriminate against people. Being unique is positive because I have my own personal identity that is special, that no one else has. Being caring is positive because I can deeply care for the people that I love and show them how I feel. Being moody is negative because my mood is always hopping from happy, to annoyed, to anxious, and back to happy. Sometimes people don't know how to deal with my changing mood. Being a perfectionist can be positive, but it is negative for me because it's so annoying and time consuming. Getting jealous easily is so negative because I should really focus on me and my life instead of caring about what other people have.



2. I am very optimistic and I definitely always try to look on the bright sides of situations. This impacts my life by making it better. When I don't dwell on the negative, I ultimately feel better about the situation. An example of my optimism is when I don't do well on a test or an assignment. Instead of dwelling on the fact that this bad grade will bring down my whole grade, I tell myself that I will do better on assignments and tests in the future to bring my grade back up. Another example of my optimism is when I get my paycheck at work, and it's not as high as I thought it'd be, I don't dwell on the fact that I won't have extra money, I just think about how I have a good amount of money saved, and if I really need money, there is some in the bank.



3. One part of my personality is that I am outspoken and I will usually speak against things that I don't agree with. If a person I didn't know very well was saying things that I completely didn't agree with, I probably wouldn't speak against them out of respect, and the fact that I don't even know them. This change would be beneficial because I could come off rude and disrespectful, which I would not want people associating with me.
Another part of my personality is that I am very loud and silly with my friends. This trait changes a little bit when we are out in public or around teachers. We tone down our loudness and silliness. That is beneficial because I wouldn't want to be categorized as a loud, immature girl. I want people to respect me and my actions.

4. One defense mechanism I have used is Denial. When one of my friends was making plans without me and then completely started ditching me, I just made up excuses for why it was happening. I was completely denying the truth and I didn't want to accept the fact that she just didn't want to hang out with me anymore.
Another defense mechanism I have used is Displacement. After having a really argument with my boyfriend at the time, I started punching my pillow and my bed.
Another defense mechanism that I have used is Reaction Formation. When I first started high school, I had very low self-esteem. So I would try to dress really nice and trendy, and I would spend so much money on new clothes to cover up the fact that I disliked how I looked.